Redefining Love ~ outside the box.

Rochelle, sometimes that which you don't understand is drawn to you so that you will understand it. But never because you needed the lesson, and not because all must be so initiated, but only because there had been earlier thoughts of awe, wonder, or criticism. And such thoughts, as all thoughts must, have rearranged your life.

Yowza,
The Universe
Rochelle, I said "you," figuratively.

From www.tut.com, Notes from the Universe.


Good Afternoon Ladies,
It is a happy Thursday, and like all Thursdays, there comes the realization of freedom and true love. What is love? What is in love? What does it mean to truly love someone? How does that shape itself in our relationships and why oh is the model still the damsel in distress waiting for the knight on horseback? Doesn't anyone drive anymore....
Mike says thoughts, somewhere somehow, the thoughts permeated into existence every experience I have ever had. Well then, that is a load off... Okay seriously, I thought that?

Right? You get the idea that the codependant, really sick and twisted one that got away or kept clinging to was really a manifestation in your own mind?

Sheaat.. . that means I thought this up. Why or what was I thinking? Exactly. the point I think.

So love, it is an emotion, a natural emotion given to us by god to navigate life. According to Neale Walsch, this and four other emtions give us the exact tools to peruse our way through life experiences. When love is supressed, conditioned,limited and or pushed through hoops it feels conflicting, claustraphobic and clingy. That is true for me, and I have been that type of woman. All of it arises from the need to be loved, and or wanted. There is no right or wrong here, only the experience. Change comes when the soul seeks a different choice, a higher choice.

So the only question that mattered at that moment:

Does it serve me to keep acting this way?

The short answer is no, well was no. The results of my friendships, relationships, work relationships and general demeanor left me feeling lonely, frustrated, scared, angry and ironically without the very idea I professed to desire.

Neale prompts us with another question, as he writes it; The only question that matters.

What would love do, now?

That simple, and that complex. First comes the definition, what is love and how do I define it? What do I want it to be and how do I become it? Then the process radically shifts into high gear as all I have thought in conjuction to these questions manifests itself in my life.

For example, my best friend and I are having dinner last night. A wonderful meal shared, and the company is amazing too. We have defined our relationship by our needs and boundaries. They are simple and without limitation on the act of love. Sleeping together is a choice we both make, in any given moment. No moving in, and constant encouragement to seek our own personal dreams. No calling to check in and make sure its okay to go out with friends. No worrying because dinner is ready in twenty minutes and she still hasn't shown up.

The greatest feeling I have ever felt is when I am one with God. The need to be alone is honored and shared. Then there is this moment when we are making love, I can look into her eyes and see her staring back at me. In that moment, I love her with everything I am so that she can experience more of who she is. And tomorrow if another comes along that moves her soul I will profess happiness and love at their union.

No ownership. None.

No more words like "My girlfriend, my lover, your partner, our home. " They are remanents of a past ideal that parntering, marrying and hooking up is a defining characteristic of owning another. Really? Does it serve you to claim ownership to something, or someone? If it does then wonderful, if it doesn't then ask the second question; What would love do, now?

The answer for me, today, is to begin.

... without a label
~Rochelle

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